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Wednesday, September 12, 2012

Update on my Mom

First I wish to thank everyone for your prayers and support during this difficult time.  I have found comfort and have felt the prayers.

As of now my Mother is resting comfortably in her own room.  She was released from the hospital yesterday.  
Her fracture was on the same hip  and was repaired by the same outstanding doctor.  I am not sure that she will ever be on her feet again.  Hopefully in a week or so she will be able to be placed in a wheelchair to be able to join everyone for daily activities.   She was transported to her Home in an ambulance  and that's when it hit me just how much she has declined because of this last injury.   I am just hoping that she knows she is in her own room and finds some peace in this.   
We have made the tough decision to not subject her to physical therapy this time.  I am supporting her to be at peace and not be pushed and I know her fragile body and mind could not handle any challenge at this time.   Her speech is almost non existent and garbled now but when the nurses had to draw blood or change bandages, she fights back. Yes, she even took a couple swings at us.   I like to see the fight in her, and when she is mad her speech is almost clear.  She was saying  "leave me alone" and I do believe that is an indicator that is exactly what she wishes.        

We have returned her to her familiar environment and with the support of the Staff and Hospice she will be kept comfortable.  I know if she has a chance it will be in an environment that is peaceful and in the only home she remembers.  (yes when she was mad in the hospital and she also told us " I want to go home!")    She has lost 11 lbs since her last surgery and she is so very frail.  Who knows she may at some point be walking again, she did it for herself last time.  I have acquired an peaceful acceptance now.  She deserves to be free and not go through this.  Hospice will make sure she is not agitated nor in pain and they are wonderful.  She is being cared for by a staff that has known and cared for her for the last year and I will be there every day for now.  

      It's been a tough five days but I have finally found peace.



11 comments:

  1. Evelyn, I have been trying to think of what to say, reading and rereading your last two posts. I lack sufficient words. You are an amazing person. Your strength is inspiring. Take care, my friend.

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  2. I've just read both posts, and I don't know what to say either. You and your mother sound like such strong people. I know that God lives, that you are His child, and that He loves you and your mother. He will help you both through this, and when He is ready to welcome your mother back home, He will be there to comfort you.

    Hang in there!

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  3. Stay strong, Evelyn. Like the quote on my wordless Wednesday post...You're letting her fly.

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  4. I am glad she is back at home - her home - it should give her some sense of normalcy and routines she knows. It is great that she can still remember that. Stay strong, Evelyn! My thoughts are with you every day,
    Linda

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  5. My thoughts and prayers continue to be with you and your mom. I think one of the hardest things to do is to let go and let God. I am glad to hear your mom is "home" - in a surrounding she is familiar with and people who care about her. I know the days are long and hard on you ... Please remember to take care of yourself - physically, emotionally and spiritually. ((hugs))

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  6. I have your mom in my thoughts. Take care of yourself, as well.

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  7. Hi Evelyn,
    My thoughts and prayers continue to be with your mom and your family. I hope everything will work out fine. What a wonderful quote you shared at the end of your post! It can help so much of us. Take care and all the best to you.
    Judy

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  8. I'm so glad that your mom is home and resting comfortably. I will pray for continued strength for her, you, and your family.
    Nichi

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  9. My dear friend...I am glad you have found peace. Even if it is hard. I'm thinking of you. And your mom. But, mostly of you. Praying that you find strength for this next year. It will bring sweet times and difficult. But..you are a strong, dear, kind lady. Your mom is lucky to have you!

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  10. I just read all your posts on Alzheimer's and--which may seem odd to you--am so glad I found them. We've been going through much the same thing. It was just a relief to hear that we are not alone in this. Watching someone lose their sanity is so very difficult. The memory issues been going on for a number of years now for us, but we reached the nursing home stage in July. We have so many of the same issues including falls, misbehavior, over-medicating, under-medicating, things disappearing--dentures, eyeglasses, clothes. It's hard to know what to in many cases.

    Thanks for writing about your experiences. It's good to know that someone out there understands what we are going through.

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Thank you so much for your sweet comments:)))